Oh Hai cuties.
So, 50 years ago today , these two adorable, amazing, fabulous, fantastic folks tied the knot.
At an age when most people are still at the HEIGHT of teenaged dumbassery -that is totally a word- they were looking at each other over a wedding license and seeing the future of a family.
I know that “times were different” then, and it would be easy to use that reasoning when thinking about them getting married at 18 and just chalk it up to “different times.” I think that through the years, growing up, my sister and I have done that in our minds – painting a bit of a simplified, if not idealized, version of our parents’ love story in our heads.
But that’s not really it. Before they were Mom and Dad, or Grandma and Grandpa, they were Peg and Steve…. There was first dates and butterflies and going steady and parental opinions and all the ups and downs of high school dating.
And also, there were two kids from two families, each with a history that would help shape their decisions regarding the future. They may have been young, but their marriage was not something either of them entered into naively. Not one bit.
I watch them together now – and I marvel at the connection. They are two complete and separate people, but for the past 50 years they have shared the timeline of one life. We have watched them cheer each other on, defend each other, sacrifice for each other, draw close to each other in times of sadness, or fright, or pain… Their relationship formed the foundation of how our family would treat each other, and those we found connection with, in this world. Has it been tested? Well – they had twin daughters… who were teenagers for a time… AND ONE OF THEM WAS ME. Sooooo, yeah.
It has been tested.
But that foundation of our family – that always has been, and is now, and ever will be long after all of us have come and gone and generations have come to take our places – remains. Somehow, under the weight of each new generation it supports, it only gets stronger.
So today I want to say thank you to my mom and dad. 50 years ago you made a brave choice to start a life together – and set in motion the story of all of us.
HAPPY ANNIVERSARY – Maude and Daddy (Mom and Daddy, Nene/Nana and Pop, Steve and Peg)
We all love you so.